Let's talk about love. How does love rewire the brain? When we meet somebody new and exciting, they invade our synapses like a virus, triggering neurochemicals that feed into attraction, arousal, even obsession. We get distracted. We think about that special someone all the time, even in the middle of a brilliantly stimulating lecture. But we're not just thinking about them. We're building an internal model, a simulation that helps us predict what they'll think or how they'll feel. Of course, relationships get into trouble when simulation meets reality, which begs the question: Do we ever really fall in love with another person or just with our idea of who they are?
Why do we bother with relationships? Neuropsychiatrists say that we're hardwired to crave intimate connections. We long for love. Of course, the reality is, it usually ends in heartache, leaving our delicate psyches bruised, if not completely shattered. Why do we even bother playing those odds? I guess because we only have to get it right once. And when it's right, we know it. Even the memory of a fulfilling relationship can sustain us, and remind us that although we may be feeling down at this particular moment, we're never truly alone.
- Dr. Daniel Pierce in Perception - 2x02 - Alienation
What is normal? If you feel sad, do you just have a case of the blues, or are you suffering from a neurochemical imbalance? The vast majority of the case studies we've been looking at involve patients whose brains are anything but normal, and there's no question they suffer. But...is it all bad? For some, their neurological states might actually protect them from painful truths that no one would want to think about. Others develop a cheerful disposition that may help them cope with situations the rest of us would find disturbing. And if we are to establish a baseline, then we also have to ask ourselves how the brains of even so called "normal" people respond to certain stimuli. And if we're able to treat those people living with neurological disorders, restore them to "normalcy," well of course we're helping them. But might we sometimes also be stripping away what makes them unique? Robbing them of an essential part of who they are?
Laren: "Well, you're not like any bartender I ever met before."
Guinan: "And you're not like any Starfleet officer I've ever met before. But that sounds like the beginning of a very interesting friendship."
Laren: "I don't stay anywhere long enough to make friends."
Guinan: "Too late. You already did."
- Star Trek: The Next Generation - 5x03 - Ensign Ro
Perhaps it is a human failing, but we are not accustomed to these kind of changes. I can't keep up.... I can't live with that kind of uncertainty. Perhaps someday our ability to love won't be so limited.... I do love you. Please remember that.
- Dr. Crusher in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 4x23 - The Host
Governor Leka Trion: "Listening is a skill which seems to have evaporated with the heat of argument."
Ambassador Odan: "Speak softly, governor. Those who cannot hear an angry shout may strain to hear a whisper."
Troi: "You know, almost everyone has a moment in their lives when they exceed their own limits, achieve what seems to be impossible."
La Forge: "The tricky part is what happens afterwards."
Troi: "You almost always feel a sense of loss. But it is possible to carry something of that experience through the rest of your life, in ways that you aren't even aware of now."
- Star Trek: The Next Generation - 4x19 - The Nth Degree
Now, she's probably done the most horrific thing one person can do to another -- not live up to your expectations. So I'd take a good long look at her, La Forge, see her for who she is, not for what you want her to be.
- Guinan in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 4x16 - Galaxy's Child
Data: "I witnessed something remarkable. Individually, they were both so..."
Troi: "Wounded. Isolated."
Data: "Yes. But no longer. Through joining, they have been healed. Grief has been transmuted to joy, loneliness to belonging."
"Sir, the purpose of this gathering confuses me." "Oh? How so?"
"My thoughts are not for Tasha, but for myself. I keep thinking how empty it will be without her presence. Did I miss the point?"
"No, you didn't, Data. You got it."
- Lieutenant Commander Data and Captain Picard in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x23 - The Skin of Evil
Captain Jean-Luc Picard, I wish I could say you've been like a father to me, but I've never had one so I don't know what it feels like. But if there was someone in this universe I could choose to be like, someone who I would want to make proud of me, it's you -- you who have the heart of an explorer and the soul of a poet. So, you'll understand when I say: Death is that stage in which one exists only in the memory of others, which is why it is not an end.
- Lieutenant Tasha Yar - Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x23 - The Skin of Evil
"Do you want to try to find those who left you here?" "She told you about them?"
"[Yes.] How long have you been here?"
"Since they left. A very long time."
"A long time to be alone."
"Save your compassion. It's revolting. You offer it like a prize, when in fact it's an insult."
"Because you feel unworthy."
"You overrate your gift. You humans are puny, weak." "But our spirit is indomitable."
"And still you die from a flick of my power."
"A great poet once said, 'All spirits are enslaved that serve things evil.'"
"You do not understand. I do not serve things evil. I am evil."
"Oh, no, you're not."
"I am a skin of evil, left here by a race of titans, who believed if they rid themselves of me, they would free the bonds of destructiveness."
"Yes, so here you are, feeding on your own loneliness, consumed by your own pain, believing your own lies. You say you are true evil, but I'll tell you what true evil is -- it is to assimilate to you, 'tis when we surrender our freedom, our dignity, instead of defying you."
"I will kill you, and those in there."
"But you will still be here, in this place, forever, alone, immortal. That's your real fear -- never to die, never again to be united with those who left you here."
- Captain Jean-Luc Picard and Armus in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x23 - The Skin of Evil
"We've been monitoring the energy field that surrounds the shuttle. When the creature is here, the field weakens. Do you know why?"
"The creature is filled with rage, undirected, unfocused rage. When he confronts it, his guard goes down, because he's feeling it instead of suppressing it. Acknowledging his needs makes him vulnerable."
"What caused the rage?"
"He was left here, abandoned."
- Captain Picard and Counselor Troi in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x23 - The Skin of Evil
Langor: "The Onarans provide us with everything we need, in exchange for this."
Data: "Fascinating. Your society -- dedicated exclusively to the production of a single product."
Picard: "A product for which you have no use, but which the Onarans cannot live without."
Langor: "One of life's little ironies, Captain."
Sobi: "But one which we'd be fools not to take advantage of. It's mutually beneficial."
Langor: "The Onarans provide us with the necessities of life. And we provide them with the necessities of living. It is a fair exchange."
Picard: "Interesting relationship."
- Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x22 - Symbiosis
"What of them? Shall I destroy them?"
"Then they will learn nothing."
"A most interesting conclusion. But what if they never learn, Riker?"
"Is this a test also?"
"Hmm. In life, one is always tested."
"I see them much as we were several hundred years ago; but possessing the technology they now have, they're very dangerous.... But we can hardly hate what we once were. They may grow, and learn." "And learn ways to destroy you?"
"Well, our values require us to face that possibility."
- Commander Riker and Portal in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x05 - The Last Outpost
The question of justice has concerned me greatly of late, and I say to any creature that may be listening, there can be no justice as long as laws are absolute. Even life itself is an exercise in exceptions.
- Captain Jean-Luc Picard in Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x08 - Justice
"That space and time and thought aren't the separate things they appear to be? I just thought the formula you were using said something like that."
"Boy, don't ever say that again, especially at your age, in a world that's not ready for such...such dangerous nonsense."
- Wesley Crusher and The Traveller - Star Trek: The Next Generation - 1x06 - Where No One Has Gone Before
Analyzing and over analyzing. Loving. Hating. Being. Seeing. Hearing. Talking. Closing my eyes. Breathing. Thinking. Thinking that I'm thinking. Believing. In very few things...but believing in them with every fibre of my being. Dancing. Till my heart is on fire. Watching TV shows. I'm addicted. Math. Programming. Mahabharat. It's fascinating. Discussing religion and its evolution. Ramadan. It's uplifting. Reading. Writing. Words. Learning. Trying. Giving. Waiting for the one I lost over the stupidest and horriblest mistake ever.